How much obsession can one girl take?
So typically we write these columns with some story in mind. I like to spout off about things that are affecting me at the moment (thus the name – Mouthing Off with Meesh). Some weeks I have a lot of pissy feelings to get out. Sometimes it’s sadness or just some weird quirky thing that sets me off. So what have I been thinking about for the past few weeks? I guess I wouldn’t so much call it “thinking about” as I would say obsessing over.
The Brothers. *sigh* For weeks, I have been thinking about these fictional characters constantly. In addition to thinking about them during my work day, and when I’m sitting at the computer at night, I talk about them with other Brother addicts. I recruit new addicts. I write about them, in emails and in this column. It’s as if my brain doesn’t care that they aren’t real. Technically all those actors we fantasize about aren’t real either – they’re made up characters, taught to carefully play their parts in front of the fans. Or at least that’s the justification I use to ease my troubled soul. You know, when I start to worry that this obsession is unhealthy.
As far as vices go, mine isn’t so bad, is it? I don’t miss work. I’m not ruining my health. I’ve made lots of very good friends who are as obsessed as I am. So what is the danger, the harm?
I was also thinking about this site and what it stands for. We aren’t like the many other Twilight fan sites. We cater to addictions of all sorts. Plus what makes us (the owners) squee is very different from what makes most Twihards pee their pants with excitement. Well, some of it is very different. Some of us do go giddy when certain cast members of the Twilight Saga are on screen. But we have other fangirl crushes that have nothing to do with Twilight or its actors. And is being hot for a fictional guy in a book really any different than being hot for a guy on a big screen? I mean, hell, at least we aren’t all panting over some anime character, right?
Is my obsession a danger to my marriage? Only if my husband knows about it. It’s funny how jealous he gets over these book characters, men I will never meet, and who I know are not real people. But I learned my lesson with the Twilight books. He used to refer to Edward as “that Cullen guy”. Now I know to just shut my mouth when it comes to my weird fantasies.
I’ve met so many wonderful women because of this phenomenon, this tendency for us to want the men we read about in books, those perfect warriors all decked out in leathers and shit kickers, armed to the teeth, big bulging muscles, yeah, muscles, fangs. *shivers* See how easy it is to get off track?
When this obsession ends, I’m sure something else will take it’s place, but I’m not going to hold my breath. We aren’t done with the Black Dagger Brotherhood series, and I hope JR Ward writes a few dozen more books for it. I’d love to hear what characters and book series you crush on.
Let’s just not talk about my crushes. mmkay? Cuz I’m pretty sure y’all are tired of hearing his name. As am I. I haz a new crush. Yeah baby!
Oh, so let’s talk about which Brothers I love and why!
Rhage is my brother. Aside from his beast and how much I love the idea of taming something wild, he is so respectful and romantic once he finds his shellan. The pretty outer shell can be overlooked (I don’t like pretty boys usually) because he is deadly.
Z could have been my brother. His bad boy thing is HAWT! The scars, the pain inside him, but as I thought about it, I realized his tortured soul thing would get old after awhile and he’d end up having to kill me when I told him to suck it up and put on his big girl panties. My sympathy meter is broken, in case you can’t tell.
V, oh yeah. He’s brilliant which is an amazing turn on. He’s wicked with computers. Another turn on. But the whole dom thing wouldn’t work. I can’t be submissive. I just can’t. Hell, I can’t even TRY to be. I know this from experience. I’m the dom and that means V would also have to kill me. See the pattern?
Wrath, Sue, yeah, I get that attraction. Especially lately. To be loved, protected, adored in the way only Wrath seems to pull off without seeming pussy whipped, that is some heady shit, true?
Butch used to be human, so meh, he doesn’t hold as much interest for me. Phury is sweet, but such a weenie, I’d have to kill him.
Other crushes? Edward was a crush of mine (not Rob), but he’s quite flat in terms of his personality so he got boring to me after awhile. Fang from the Dark Hunters could also do it for me.
I try not to let these weird obsessions affect my day to day life. I’ve made lots of good friends, too, and isn’t it funny how women don’t seem to fight over the brothers? I’ve only met one woman who refused to entertain the notion that someone else might also crush on her brother. I think even if we love the same brother, in our minds, our brother is OURS, all ours. Like there are millions of brothers out there, and each of us gets our pick. Ah, to be so easily entertained is truly a gift.
Meesh, as always you hit on some great points here. When it comes to vices, the one caveat is that it shouldn’t interfere with daily life. I have loooong since learned how to INTEGRATE my obsessions into my daily life. So, it’s all good. And, this particular series hasn’t inspired infighting as far as I know. If anything I have met and bonded with so many new people because of it, even when we have the same obsession with the same Brother.
As for the Brother’s, who do I obsess over? I don’t really need to say it do I? I mean, I pretty much introduce myself by saying, “Hi, I’m Susan and I love Wrath.”
Other obsessions: I’m pretty sure I love Alcide from True Blood, but I haven’t read all of the SVM books, so I am basing it on the series.
I haven’t read enough of the Midnight Breed series to know which one of the Breed Warriors I will fall for, but my preliminary report is Rio.
I love Stark from House of Night (Erik is a big fat baby), and weirdly, I kind of have a thing for Rephaim. Don’t judge me.
From the Blue Bloods I lurve me some Jack Force, but I want Schuyler to be with Oliver. I want Jack Force for myself.
My crushes are so numerous. Of course, everyone knows about my Edward/Rob crush (yes, I know they are not one in the same – just killing two birds with one stone), so no need to dwell on that at the moment. Oh, but there are other fictional characters I love to swoon over. For instance.
Z from BDB – I’ve loved him since reading his book. There is such a vulnerability about this tough, tortured warrior that hits me down deep. Of course, I love his attitude, and the piercings and tatt’s don’t hurt either.
Eric Sullivan from the Chicagoland Vampire series – For those of you who haven’t read these books, go forth and read them immediately. Eric is one sexy, cocky vampire that you will by turns lust for and want to slap. His chemistry with the main character of the series is so intense you might need a little private time after reading, js.
Jax from the Mortal Instruments Series – So tough on the outside, yet so sensitive on the inside. Bad boys like him get me every single time.
Eric Northman – Um…have you seen the latest Rolling Stones cover? If so, you know exactly where I’m coming from.
Tegan from the Midnight Breed series – Once again, a bad boy who doesn’t need anything or anyone. His only mission in life is killing Rouges. Of course, once he meets his mate, the tender side of this brooding warrior is revealed. I dare you to read his book and not fall in love with him.
I could go on and on and on. Yes, I have a problem – I am obsessed by fictional characters. But, amongst the range of obsessions I could have, I think this one is by far the least harmful.
Great column, Meesh!
Clears throat *ahem* My brother is Vishous. I find it fascinating:
a) that his book was my favorite
b) that I’m willing to be submissive (with him and only him and in my mind, naturally)
c) that his book was the most difficult to write for JR.
I fell in love with Vishous during Lover Revealed and in large part due to his relationship with Butch. But, honestly, this series had me as soon as I read Dark Lover. I was immediately insatiable, wanting more and luckily I was a late bloomer when it comes to the brothers so there were several more books waiting for me to devour them.
I think the obsession is fine! It’s harmless, doesn’t inspire infighting (at least I don’t think so) and at least we all know that there’s no living, breathing person that gets harassed as a result. Right?